Episode 13: BIG CHANGES!

by | Jun 16, 2020 | Podcast | 2 comments

In this episode I talk about how my business has changed and evolved over the last two years, and how I was able to make big decisions that affected my business and my life while adapting to new changes.

Morning Routine

Morning routine is so essential for making big positive changes in your life that can go and expand all over the place, not in just your community in your business, but globally. Mel Robbins (The 5 Second Rule, Take Control Of Your Life) recommends that instead of hitting the snooze button, you just have to get up and be a whiny baby about how early you’re up. But only for the first couple of days, because she says by then, you will get over it.

And I’m thinking, okay. Yeah, I can probably do that.

And then she says, “Well, okay. Do it. And then set your alarm for half an hour earlier than normal.”

And I respond to her audiobook, “well, look, lady, you know, I do want to make a change, but I don’t know if this is really the way that I want to go about it, you know, I need my beauty sleep. You don’t get zero wrinkles at age 32 from not sleeping in right.”

But she’s right.

So I’ve been waking up earlier than normal for the last week and I am getting SO MUCH MORE DONE. This small step to adjust my morning routine has shown tangible results in one week. I mean – you can see the transcript below… that wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t get up at 7:00 AM.

The Classic Pros and Cons List

I love making a pros and cons list because it helps me to organize all of the thoughts that are in my head. Oftentimes if I feel like there’s just so much happening, it get stuck in “analysis paralysis.” But when I write down specifics on what I like and what I don’t like, it makes it a lot easier to make decisions based on evidence.

Be realistic with your pros and cons list and be strict with yourself. If you’re making stuff up just for the sake of making it up, then maybe it doesn’t belong on the pros and cons list. Get really clear and really refine that list down.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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New epsiode out now! http://theultimatecreative.com/big-changes When I’m afraid of making big decisions that require a lot of change, I often ask myself, “why do people change? How do people to take that leap and do the thing that they’ve been talking about doing for so long?” There’s a book by Mel Robbins called The Five Second Rule which I love. The thing is though, the five second rule does not work on me. I have no idea why. I wish it would. The basic principle is to count down backwards from five to signal to your brain that the thought pattern you’re having needs to be interrupted so you can make a different decision that benefits you. And for whatever reason, my brain’s just like “No! I’m not going to let you tell me what to do!” So I took a different piece of advice out of the book, that if you do want to make a change in your life, it starts with your morning routine. Morning routine is so essential for making big positive changes in your life that can expand all over the place, not in just your community, or your business, but globally. So instead of hitting the snooze button, Mel recommends to just get up and be a whiny baby about it for the first couple of days. And I’m thinking, okay. Yeah, I can probably do that. Then she says, “And then set your alarm for half an hour earlier than you have been setting it for.” And at that point I’m like, “well, look, lady, you know, I do want to make a change, but I don’t know if this is really the way that I want to go about it, you know, I need my beauty sleep. You don’t get zero wrinkles at age 32 from not sleeping in right!” Hehehheehhehe. So I forced myself last week to wake up at 7:00 AM, which is half an hour earlier than my alarm. It’s usually set for 7:30 AM. And I didn’t hit the snooze button. Except for on Friday, because there was construction outside! So I didn’t have a choice I had to get up. I think this is what happens when we make a decision that we want to make a change in our lives. The universe will conspire to make you do the thing. The stupid jerky jerk construction guys, outside conspired to wake me up at 7:05 AM instead of 7:15. And I’m definitely getting more done!

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Financial Stability

Another thing you might want to consider when you’re deciding to do something new or make a really big change, is financial stability.

Are you able to float yourself for a long period of time if you are deciding to leave your full time job to start your own business? Most people will tell you that it makes more sense to work on building up the business while you working a full time job, and then transition into your business full time, Because it’s going to be easier for you to actually sustain this business going forward.

Otherwise it’s going to be so overwhelming that you can’t actually pay all of the bills, and you may end up going to go back to another job.

Long-term Vision vs. Short-term Ideas

I am like a classic short term idea person because my ADHD brain just operates like that. It’s just, it’s very like, what’s next what’s happening, let’s execute, let’s get it done, the end.

But I do need to have more of a longterm vision if I ever want to accomplish the things that I’ve always dreamed of doing. Having my own comedy troupe took me several years to finally accomplish. Having my own business again, took me several years to finally accomplish.

And if you look at my blog “You Need A Clear Mission Statement,” it explains how clarity can move your business or your life, whatever it is, in the direction you want it to go.

Think about whether it’s going to serve you longterm or short term, and which one is going to serve the whole long vision.

Taking The First Step

If you’re serious about change, you need to take at least one step today to do make it happen. Commit to one thing. And, BONUS, tell me what that thing is! I’ll help hold you accountable! Drop a comment below!

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Full Transcript:

[00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to another episode of The Ultimate Creative podcast. I’m your host, Emily Milling, and today we’re talking about saying goodbye to the old you. There’s nothing wrong with the old you, the old you is great, but I don’t know if the old you is really serving you anymore.

The old you could be thinking about why you can’t do certain things, or the old you could be saying, I should stay in this situation because it’s comfortable and it’s what I’m familiar with. But is that really making a positive impact on your life? And is it helping you get to where you want to be?

But it’s really hard. And I think it’s because it’s easier to just be comfortable in what is familiar. But that means that you become complicit and that you’re okay with certain things happening, even though they’re not really good things anymore.

And I think a lot about why humans as a species really resist change. And I always come back to this idea that an object in motion likes to stay in motion and an object at rest likes [00:01:00] to stay at rest. The physics part of it. You know, like, “I really don’t want to get up to change my underwear, but I’m going to have to, if I don’t want to smell gross.”

I mean, that’s a pretty gross example of change, but it’s, you know, the one that I think most of us can relate to. Sometimes you just don’t want to do anything. And that includes changing your underwear or having a shower or getting up without hitting the snooze button 50 times on your alarm clock.

So then you have to ask yourself, Why do people change? What actually compels people to take that leap and do the thing that they’ve been talking about doing for so long?

I’ve read a couple of books on this. The one that I really, really loved was called Take Control of Your Life by Mel Robbins. And I’ve talked about this book many, many times.

She also has a book called the five second rule which I also really love. The crazy thing is though, the five second rule does not work on me. I have no idea why.

[00:02:00] The basic principle of it is you count down backwards from five, and that’s supposed to signal to your brain that it’s interrupting the thought pattern that you’re having.

So a very typical thought pattern would be, the alarm is going off and I’m going to just hit snooze. And instead of just hitting snooze, you start counting five, four, three, two, one. That blocks, that thought pattern that is telling you to just hit snooze and you’re on autopilot.

And then it’s supposed to get you to get up and go about your day. I have tried it over and over and over again. And for whatever reason, my brain’s just like “No. I’m not going to let you tell me what to do because I do it my own way.” So I took a different piece of advice out of the book. Mel Robbins suggests that if you do want to make a change in your life, you need to start with your morning routine.

Morning routine is so essential for making big positive changes in your life that can go and expand all over the place, not in just your community in your [00:03:00] business, but like globally. So instead of just focusing on the five second rule, she recommends instead of hitting the snooze button, you just have to get up and you have to just be a whiny baby about it for the first couple of days, but, then you will get over it.

And I’m thinking, okay. Yeah, I can probably do that.

And then she says, “Well, okay. Do it. And then set your alarm for half an hour earlier than you have been setting it for.”

And at that point I was like, “well, look, lady, you know, I do want to make a change, but I don’t know if this is really the way that I want to go about it, you know, I need my beauty sleep. You don’t get zero wrinkles at age 32 from not sleeping in right.”

That’s probably wrong. I have a very good skincare regimen.

So anyway, I forced myself last week to wake up at 7:00 AM, which is half an hour earlier than my alarm. It’s usually set for 7:30 AM. And I didn’t [00:04:00] hit the snooze button. Except for on Friday.

I hit it one time. I don’t remember why.

But then there was construction outside. So I had to wake up anyway, because for whatever reason, these guys just like to bang on a tub in the morning.

So I didn’t have a choice I had to get up.

And this I think is what happens when we make a decision that we want to do something different.

When we make a decision that we want to make a change in our lives, like the universe will conspire to make you do the thing. The stupid jerky jerk construction guys, outside conspired to make me wake up. At 7:05 AM instead of 7:15.

So, this is, just the beginning of it. I want to talk more about how my business and everything has evolved though, over the last two years, because I’m coming up on a two year anniversary and I’m trying to think back and reflect on what has worked really well and what hasn’t worked. And what are the things that I want to do to make my business better for the next two years, the next [00:05:00] 15 years, the next, however much longer I’m going to be doing this business for.

And what shape is it going to take, and how is it going to evolve? Because it has changed so dramatically in the last two years.

So I started the business back in actually in like, March or February of 2018. And it was just a sole proprietorship. In fact, it was just me taking on one or two freelance jobs to build websites because I had to pay off all the debt from producing my, feature horror film, Impossible Horror. And we were in enough debt that it made sense that we would take on some extra work. So mine was building websites. And I started selling them very, very, very cheap, and had no idea how to price them of course.

So I would build websites. They started getting more and more complex. I was not charging enough for them. And then I started demanding more, and suddenly people started paying more and I was thinking to myself, “well, I’ve got [00:06:00] nothing to lose here. If I tell them that the price is $4,000 for this type of website, then they can either take it or leave it.”

And surprisingly people started taking it! This started this huge confidence boost and change in me that like – I can actually dictate my own value. I don’t need other people to do that for me.

And previous to this, you know, I had been working at day jobs that were salaried and they had a specific guideline of how much they would pay this particular kind of role and then they wouldn’t have enough money to give me any sort of a raise, which really sucked – and I would still be expected to do oodles of work.

How else do you describe it? Oodles and oodles of work!

But in understanding that I could be the one to dictate what my value is, I suddenly opened up this whole entire new world.

And the change had to happen as a result of – kind of crummy situation where we had to pay [00:07:00] off some debt – I mean, it wasn’t the end of the world kind of a situation.

But the thing is that I had nothing to lose at this point and I was ready to take the bull by the horns and give it everything I had.

I’ve always wanted to start my own business and then it just kind of happened. Again, you know, the universe conspires to make you do the things. I just had so many people banging on my door, asking me to build websites.

But because I didn’t really quite understand the whole business side of it, it was very clunky at first. But that’s okay, ’cause I learned so many lessons, and I learned pretty quickly how to identify the people that I do want to work with and the people that I don’t want to work with. And then how to get out of those situations when they were really not serving me well.

That’s another really important thing about change too. If you’re caught in a situation that is not giving you what you need, like mentally or emotionally or spiritually, whatever it is, or financially even, it’s okay that you take a step back and [00:08:00] say, I need to reassess what’s going on here. And I need to make a change.

These situations typically will build some resentment for you though, right? Like you want to be able to recognize the signals that are asking you to make these changes before it starts to happen. So for me, learning about the different types of people that I was working with, the different types of clients that I was taking on – I was really just accepting anyone and everybody in the first six months of the business, because A: I had to make enough money to cover the salary I was no longer making and B: I didn’t really know any better.

And suddenly I started to recognize that I really didn’t like working with people who blamed me for things. I did not like working with people who treated me like a random hired hand.

I really love working with people who are collaborative, who are creative, who want to have fun building something together and who are decisive.

I need to work with decisive people because I am a decisive person. [00:09:00] I don’t want to be wishy washy for months and months on end, trying to decide between one color or another color. Like make a decision, and then move forward with it.

That is an important part of change as well. Change is difficult when you feel like there are so many different variables out there, but it is so much easier to make an impactful change – however you want to do it, whether it’s with your brand colors or a logo, whatever – if you just make a decision. The best leaders I’ve heard, according to all the podcasts and everything that I’ve been listening to, are the ones that will make a decision and then think about it, and adapt it as time goes on.

So you make the decision in the moment. You need to make the decision and say, “yes, I will go with the san serif font.” And then as your business adapts and evolves, and you’re like, “no, you know what, actually, I really love the serif font and I want to go back to the serif,” then just change your font back to the serif font!

It can be really difficult when you’re a [00:10:00] perfectionist or you come from a mindset that is very perfectionist, to be okay with that type of decision making, but that type of decision making is what’s going to get you to the next level when you know that you need to make a change.

And perfectionism is, is so hard to deal with. I know because I’m a recovering perfectionist.

Now that I understand that I understand that about myself, it’s much easier for me to make fast decisions about who I do and I don’t want to work with. And I wrote a whole blog post about an onboarding questionnaire, which you can totally steal. In fact, I called it, “steal this onboarding questionnaire” so that you can help yourself understand the best type of people and the best personalities that you want to work with.

So back to the history of the business, things are going really well. I’m taking on a bunch of random projects, I’m still, I’m still trying to figure out exactly what it is I want to be doing with the business. I’m getting kind of sick of building websites, not going to lie, but I have great opportunities here and there to work on some really amazing projects.

A year into the business I [00:11:00] brought in a partner and we were 50/50 split and we had worked together previously, so we knew how our work balance would go with our personalities. That was really important to me.

But that is a really big change to make as well. I went from making all of the decisions in the business to having accountability to somebody else and responsibility to somebody else to make decisions. And that, obviously based on everything I’ve just described to you, is extremely hard for me, because it doesn’t take me a very long time to make decisions.

There were some decisions that came to me very, very rapidly that weren’t mutually agreed on. Which is fine, is everybody has a different point of view. But, the fact that I wasn’t able to be the person to say yes or no to whatever the situation was – and it wasn’t my favorite situation, I won’t lie – it really bothered me that I wasn’t able to be in control of that.

[00:12:00] So learning and adapting to a partnership was in and of itself its own shifting and changing of me, as the individual Emily Milling.

I had to make a lot of different compromises, tons that were fine for me to make, because I was like, “I’m growing as a person and I am always happy if I’m growing as a person and I’m understanding who I am better.” I think that is always going to be a good outcome.

Unfortunately, the partnership didn’t work out. Not for, not a lack of trying or anything, it was just a completely different approach to what we wanted to accomplish, and that’s okay.

But understanding now how I like to make decisions and why I like to make the decisions I make and why I think I work much better on my own, it’s setting me up for success later down the line.

Making that change though, from being in a partnership to ultimately ending the partnership [00:13:00] was incredibly hard. I had to do a lot of soul searching and I think I did get pretty wrapped up in the complacency of comfort. It wasn’t something that I wanted to do. It was definitely not something that I had set out in my life plan to do to start and end a partnership within a year.

But it was necessary for me in order to get to a place where I was feeling good about myself again, and good about what I was contributing to the world.

I do think it was hard for me to come to that conclusion earlier, because I really wanted to give it a go. I really wanted to make it work. I think anybody who is trying really hard to make something happen, especially when it’s an important relationship, like a business partnership – you know, it’s also like a romantic partnership. You want to make it work because you have put so much time into it.

But there’s also the idea of the sunk cost fallacy.

If you’ve put so much time and effort into [00:14:00] something, it doesn’t mean you should get the same return out of it, because if what you’re getting out of it is not serving you in any way, and if it’s just making you feel like garbage all the time, and it’s not just you, it’s making your partner feel like garbage because neither of you really knows where you stand anymore, then it’s not a loss to part ways and say goodbye.

And I think we were very lucky in that we recognized it together at the same time, that it was getting to the point where we weren’t going towards the same goals anymore. And we were feeling resentful that, the other person wasn’t just following along with us.

There was, there’s nothing wrong with the fact that we parted ways because we had different goals. It’s probably the best outcome that you could hope for in any sort of a business partnership ending. There was nothing financial about it. No, ill will, nothing like that. It was just learning and understanding who we were [00:15:00] individually, and who we were as business owners and knowing that we could still do this on our own after the fact.

I knew because I was doing it before that I would be okay doing it on my own. But, this all started right around the pandemic hitting and everybody going into lockdown, into quarantine and all of that stuff.

So we had to say goodbye to our office in, within that week basically. And we had to say goodbye to a life that we had built up.

The change of that was not easy. It was not easy at all. It was really hard to come to terms with the fact that I had to say goodbye to someone who I put a lot of value into. But doing it for the right reasons did help.

I think, you know, again, it took me a really long time to get to the point where I was okay with saying like, “I don’t think I can do this anymore” because it’s easy to blame a [00:16:00] second party. It’s easy to say like, well, it’s their fault because they did this thing or whatever, instead of looking inward and understanding what it is that I’m bringing or not bringing to the table.

And maybe there are some areas that I could have compromised on more. I’m a hundred per cent sure there were. I just don’t think that I was able to really fully accept that and really fully understand that until after the fact.

So, you know, leading up to really big, important changes. It is important to do that introspective work and to understand your role. In the situation that you’re in. Understand the thought patterns that you have.

Like as soon as I see this person, this is what I’m thinking. This is what I’m feeling. Why is that? Can you go a little bit deeper into understanding these different things?

I am using this partnership as an example, because it’s very fresh in my mind, and it’s also reminiscent of me leaving a comedy troupe that I started with a bunch of friends. I was exceptionally involved in that troupe.

It [00:17:00] was really hard to say goodbye to that troupe, but it did make leaving the partnership a little bit easier. So, you know, if there’s something that’s really weighing on you, that you’re like, “I have to make this change,” ask yourself if there is something a little bit easier that you could do first.

A little bit easier that is similar to what the big one is that you need to do. And see how you feel after that is done. I’m pretty sure you’re going to feel good about it because, when you make the decision to do things for you, it just gives you a big confidence boost.

My guest next week, Alicia Carrick is going to talk all about this.

She’s one of those people who is just so very good at understanding herself, her mental state, where she’s at, and knowing – what are the things that are making her feel good and whole, and what are the things that are not adding to her goals in life. What are those things that she can easily say goodbye to?

So if you’re still [00:18:00] thinking about this, if you’re trying to make a big decision right now about a change that you need to make, definitely listen to that episode next week.

So after I parted ways with my partner – this was in March and it officially was over in April – I had to adapt to a whole new set of changes. I had to completely restructure the business – The Ultimate Creative. I had to basically reinvent myself, and it was a bit of a metamorphosis.

To be honest, it went through several iterations. And this is again where this perfectionist idea comes back in. It took me a while to get to the point where I had all these big, bright colors that were huge and big and larger than life, which is sort of how I am generally. But I started out with these incredibly muted, dull, desaturated colors. And it was very quiet and minimal. There were no pictures of me anywhere.

And it was just like, “how do I hide behind more of someone else?”

Again, still [00:19:00] this partnership ending forced me to step out into the light and be the person that I’ve always wanted to be in front of the camera, doing the podcasts, leading the interviews, leading the change, running courses, all of these different things. It forced me to have the momentum and the energy to make this big shift in my business.

So no longer am I doing the same types of websites that I was doing before, because again, you know, they just sucked so much energy out of me. Now I’ve got a whole new program that I’m going to be launching in the next little bit.

So if you’re looking for a website, keep an eye out for this.

It’s a very collaborative process. We work on it together. We launch your whole website in four weeks, and we do it in a strategic way. And I give you all of these different tools and tricks to get your content ready, your assets, ready, your branding, all of this sort of stuff.

But I’m also being very specific in terms of who I’m going to be helping with this program. I’m only going to be opening this up to [00:20:00] two slots per month because it’s not fair to me, and it’s not fair to the other person to divide up my time so much. So this way you get this really deliberate one on one time with me, and it’s sort of like a website coaching program where I’m going to help you with your entire online presence.

And at the end of it, you have a great website and you’re going to know what to do with your website, versus sending me a couple of ideas and me trying to figure out what’s in your head because that actually never works.

And a lot of, a lot of times I get a lot of people coming in who are ready for a website refresh or a website change, and they don’t actually know what it is that they want to put into the world yet. So this idea of a website product is going to be more along the lines of understanding how you want to put yourself or your business out into the world.

Because that is all a website is it’s putting yourself and your business out into the world. Sure. I mean, if you are looking to build out a [00:21:00] website that is very, like big and cool and awesome, and has all of these different features and functionality, just like The Ultimate Creative website has, that is totally cool and awesome and possible.

The program that I’m developing now based on what I’m learning about my clients and my people and what I’m learning about myself, it’s going to get you to the point where what you’re putting out into the world is how you want to be seen. It’s not wishy washy. It’s very direct. It’s very specific again, because I love working with decisive people.

And you’ll learn that about me if you work with me, for sure on anything

Change is just hard though. Change is really hard. And so I like challenging people to think about why they haven’t been able to make a change in the past and what it can do for them if they make the decision to make a change.

I’ve seen what it can do for me. I’ve seen what it can do for so many people.

And it comes down to noticing what’s going on inside of [00:22:00] you, physiologically and noting when you feel tense or angry or upset, and when you feel really big and wide and open and happy and joyful, and following the things that make you feel awesome versus following the things make you feel like poop.

Nobody wants to feel like poop.

So let’s say you need to make a big change. You’ve got something coming up and you’re like, “this has been weighing on me. I need to know how to evolve from this, and I don’t want to feel like I’ve put so much into it that I’m getting nothing out.”

Again, the sunk cost fallacy, which I will drop a link to in the show notes.

Here are a couple of things that you can do to help you decide what’s going to be best for you.

The first thing is a classic pros and cons list. I love making a pros and cons list because it helps me to organize all of the thoughts that are in my head. Oftentimes when you’re feeling like there’s just so much happening, it becomes a little bit of, analysis paralysis to make a decision on things.

[00:23:00] But when you are able to write down specifics on what you like and what you don’t like, the pros and the cons, it makes it a lot easier to make your decision based on evidence – the evidence being what you have written out here.

And if you write something down and it looks a little wishy washy, like “I don’t like the way that the tea tree oil smells” – that has nothing to do with what kind of website you want to build. You know what I mean? You’re going to be able to pick those things out a lot more easily. It’s going to help you with clarity, it’s going to help you with understanding what your motivations are to do this in the first place.

Like maybe you’re deciding to take guitar lessons and you do a pros and cons list for that. The pros being you’re going to feel more confident. You’re going to have more fun. You’re going to finally do that musical thing that you’ve always wanted to do. The cons being, it costs some money. And it’s going to be really hard and your fingers are probably going to get blisters and they might bleed because you’re gonna get so excited about your guitar, that you’re gonna want to play it all night.

Be realistic with your pros and cons list and be strict with yourself. If you’re making stuff up just for the [00:24:00] sake of making it up, then maybe it doesn’t belong on the pros and cons list. Get really clear and really refine that list down.

Another thing you might want to consider when you’re deciding to do something new or make a really big change, is financial stability.

Are you able to float yourself for however long you need to, if you are say, deciding to leave your full time job to start your own business. Most people will tell you that it makes more sense to work on building up the business and working far too many hours, while you working a full time job and then transitioning into your business full time. Because it’s going to be easier for you to actually sustain this business going forward.

Otherwise it’s going to be so overwhelming that you can’t actually – you know – pay all of the bills .You’re just going to go back to another job. So that’s just one thing to consider.

If you’re deciding to make a big change, if you’re deciding to switch out some services, is it [00:25:00] going to be a better revenue generator for you or worse? Or are you going to feel more mentally okay, or worse? Weigh these options.

You can do pros and cons lists for your financial stability as well.

As long as you are okay in your finances, it’s fine to move forward on these really big decisions. And, you know, maybe if they don’t even count finances, don’t count. Finances didn’t make a difference for me when I left my comedy troupe, because I think we had like $75, maybe?

That’s fine. none of us were really in it for the money. And so it didn’t factor in.

The third thing that I think you should consider, if you want to make a really big change, is longterm vision versus short term ideas.

I am like a classic short term idea person because my ADHD brain just operates like that. It’s just, it’s very like, what’s next what’s happening, let’s execute, let’s get it done, the end.

But I do need to have more of a longterm [00:26:00] vision if I ever want to accomplish the things that I’ve always dreamed of doing like. Having my own comedy troupe took me several years to finally accomplish. And having my own business again, took me several years to finally accomplish.

But if my longterm vision for my business is that I am able to pay myself a really great salary that I want to be paid, and have a lifestyle that I want, and then also be able to pay a few people to help me to do this, then I need to be making decisions for my business, for the services that I’m offering, that are going to actually get me there one day. Versus, “can I pay this tax bill?”

I am getting better at that. It’s not just these little short term blips of things. It’s longterm strategy so that everything funnels into this together. And if you look at any of my other blogs or anything about a clear mission statements, a clear vision statement? I think it’s a clear vision statement.

[00:27:00] Anyway, I’ll link to that blog as well in the show notes here.

It explains why you need a clear vision statement so that you can move your business or your life, whatever it is, in the direction you want it to go and you don’t lose sight of that.

That’s why these guided visualization exercises are so great because they force you to really think about like, where is it that you’re going, and what is it that you want to do?

Think about whether it’s going to serve you longterm or short term, and which one is going to serve the whole long vision.

Granted, perhaps it does just make sense to go out and get a funnel cake one day. That’s, you know, that’s a decision that you can make too. That’s a change you can make, you know, instead of having a pie, I will have a funnel cake perhaps.

That’s it that’s for you to decide.

So finally, to close off in this whole conversation about change, it’s important to think about taking the first step, and how to take that first step. Because it can be super scary and super intimidating. You know, again, we’ve talked a lot about complacency, [00:28:00] being comfortable in the situation that you’re in, because it doesn’t require you to put in too much more effort. You know, you’re on autopilot and you’re able to kind of get through everything that you need to get through.

But it doesn’t mean that you are happy necessarily. So. If you are serious about making a change for your business or for your life or whatever your goals are, and you know, that something has to happen, you must take the first step.

And the first step could be any number of things.

It could be downloading Mel Robbins book Take Control of Your Life.

Or it could be taking a class in something that you’ve been thinking about for a while.

It could be just, you know, Joining a Facebook group about a topic that you’re really interested in or starting that Instagram account for your new business.

It could be any number of those things.

As soon as you start working towards it, it’s going to make it more real, and it’s going to take away that overwhelm. Big changes [00:29:00] happen in small steps. They don’t just happen overnight. It takes a long time to amass all of this stuff and really get that momentum going and feel okay and comfortable with it.

Because you are doing something that’s going to make you uncomfortable and it will – so just accept that. Accept that with change comes heck of a lot of discomfort, but that’s one hundred percent okay. Especially if you are working towards accomplishing the things that you want to accomplish.

The last thing I want to end on here is to say that it’s not enough to just say, give yourself the permission to move forward, or “I’m giving you the permission to move forward today.”

I think it’s really important that if you are considering making a big change in your life, that you have a very good, strong support system around you and you are using those people to help you move in the direction you need to go in. So whether that’s family, whether that’s friends, whether that’s a Reddit subreddit, I know the words, a subreddit find a community that is going to be [00:30:00] able to give you that support and make sure that you’re giving that back to them tenfold when you’re through your big change. Again, not everybody is able to just kind of pull this stuff out of their butts and say like, “yeah, I have decided I’m going to go do this.” It does take a lot of work and it does take a lot of effort and everybody has a completely different story and trajectory that they’re working through.

So find a good community that will help you to grow. And I’d also like you to remember that I am in your corner and I want you to succeed!

And if you want to throw some ideas around, then send me an email. I’m at [email protected] and I really, really want to hear what your big plans are for the next couple of months, for the next year, for your life and how you are working through making big decisions as well.

Thanks for listening!

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  1. Ryan Ellis

    Great session Emily!! Going through the same issues right now!! Your evolution has been amazing, keep rocking it.. Ding Ding Ding from the 500 section..

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    • Emily Milling

      Well gee, thanks Ryan! I hope your big change leads to AMAZING things!!!! Cheering you on!

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